I would love to be able to say that this has been a fantastic day and that I hope everyone's had as great a weekend as I have. As you probably know by now, I try and keep it positive and look forward rather than backwards (as my dad loves to say). But I have promised you honesty. As well as that, I think it's important to be able to feel negative feelings too.
So, without further ado, I'd like to announce that today has been a not-so-good day on the scale of actually-so-cool to not-so-good.
All around, it's been pretty average- didn't sleep until very late (or early, if you like), missed my alarm, struggled (ok, I admit, I very nearly reduced myself to tears... I know) with math, and- actually this next one's funny in hindsight so I'll do a mini-anecdote:
My friend M got tickets to our school musical, and invited me to go with her. So I put on a dress (I say a dress, but I really mean a comfy floppy dress-like thing that seems to look all right) and heels and (shock horror) lipstick, and turned up at the drama centre. There was nobody there. So I intruded on M's band practice wondering what was going on, only to find the musical was NEXT weekend. I was so beside myself, I didn't know whether to feel embarrassed or think the whole thing was hilarious.
So, without further ado, I'd like to announce that today has been a not-so-good day on the scale of actually-so-cool to not-so-good.
All around, it's been pretty average- didn't sleep until very late (or early, if you like), missed my alarm, struggled (ok, I admit, I very nearly reduced myself to tears... I know) with math, and- actually this next one's funny in hindsight so I'll do a mini-anecdote:
My friend M got tickets to our school musical, and invited me to go with her. So I put on a dress (I say a dress, but I really mean a comfy floppy dress-like thing that seems to look all right) and heels and (shock horror) lipstick, and turned up at the drama centre. There was nobody there. So I intruded on M's band practice wondering what was going on, only to find the musical was NEXT weekend. I was so beside myself, I didn't know whether to feel embarrassed or think the whole thing was hilarious.
Gosh, when I read that it sounds like a really bad TV drama or something. I should have a TV show in which a whole bunch of hilariously embarrassing things happen to me, although I'm not sure whether today counts... ok, I can't believe I'm still trying to decide whether that was embarrassing. Sorry, I'll shut up now.
What my bad day has really been about is quite different. Today, some of my closest friends (more like family, really) who definitely make my top-ten-people-I-love-most-in-the-world, are highlighting the necessity of that bit at the end (in-the-world). They've been visiting from London where they just recently moved, and are now going back there. So I'm feeling... How did I put it this morning? It was quite good, really. I'll go find it and put it below- it was on an email I sent to my best friend N.
"This is going to sound SO teen angst-y but my stomach feels like it's been ripped out of my..... uh, gut. So yeah, Expecting To Feel Gutted (Again) For The Next Few Weeks is my current status."
"This is going to sound SO teen angst-y but my stomach feels like it's been ripped out of my..... uh, gut. So yeah, Expecting To Feel Gutted (Again) For The Next Few Weeks is my current status."
But then (I have to tie this in somehow) the point of this whole thing is, it's ok to have a bad day. Everyone has difficulties in their lives, and everyone has to deal with them. The important thing to remember is this: Just like normal days, bad days always have to end.
Until then, you just need a sign like this to warn people off.
Until then, you just need a sign like this to warn people off.
Why sadness is important:
1) Closure. It's our way of dealing with things we don't want to happen, or things that will affect us negatively.
2) Humanity. We wouldn't be human without sadness: this is what it's like to experience the world.
3) Contrast. How could we know true happiness if we didn't know what it felt like without happiness? Happiness and sadness aren't necessarily opposites- but sadness can give us appreciation of the times when we are happy.
4) Strength. The thing about sadness, is that it isn't permanent. Sadness is a thing that challenges us, and by challenging us it helps us build strength and resilience. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger!
1) Closure. It's our way of dealing with things we don't want to happen, or things that will affect us negatively.
2) Humanity. We wouldn't be human without sadness: this is what it's like to experience the world.
3) Contrast. How could we know true happiness if we didn't know what it felt like without happiness? Happiness and sadness aren't necessarily opposites- but sadness can give us appreciation of the times when we are happy.
4) Strength. The thing about sadness, is that it isn't permanent. Sadness is a thing that challenges us, and by challenging us it helps us build strength and resilience. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger!
So, I can say this: although I hate having bad days as much as the next person, I know I just couldn't enjoy life so much if I didn't have them. Hope you all got something out of this too! It's certainly made me feel a little better writing about it.
Love always,
Em xx
Love always,
Em xx